Shomer Negiah in a Whole New Mind

I have done lots of research on shomer negiah and I have learned many new things. It has made me look at life in a whole new way. If you touch someone you could start developing feelings for the person. The friendship you thought was innocent could become sexual and halachically unacceptable. There are many commentaries on this topic because there are many debates. This mitzvah has lots of arguments to do with it. In one of Torah sources it says that when the woman is during the time of "tumah" the man is forbidden to come in physical contact with her. Until she becomes tahor or spiritually pure again, a man cannot come into physical contact with her. Studying shomer negiah taught me to look at different ways of life. I see how different people are in life and I am able to look at it from different perspectives. I can look at it from people that are shomer and from people that aren't. I, myself am not shomer negiah but I know many people that I am close to that are. I have thought about becoming shomer negiah quite often very recently. It is something that comes up in life very frequently. The Rambam's commentary says that the touching that is given has to be affectionate is forbidden. Many people argue about this mitzvah. There are questions like, "What's the big deal that we are all shomer?"  One main question to look at is, "Why is it something many people struggle with?" I think a majority of the people that struggle are teenagers. Another important question that is asked a lot is, "What is important about it? What is the purpose?" The purpose of this mitzvah is modesty and self respect. The last main question people think of when they hear about this mitzvah is, "How is this properly observed?" If people study it and really understand it I think it is properly observed. If the person is modest and abides by all the rules I think the person will be just fine. Some people say that in different communities it can be different because it sometimes depends on the atmosphere. People will sometimes abide by the rules with different degrees and it can sometimes reflect on the community the person lives in. I've learned many new aspects of shomer negiah and I am so happy I chose to study this mitzvah. It has only changed me for the better and I can't wait to try and make this a big impact on my life.